large number of feudal in backward areas had married their daughters to the Quran. The ceremony takes place after the girl of the family is asked to take a bath, after which a Qur’an is put before her as the men folk apologize to her for the ritual which would condemn the girl never to get married but to read the Quran every day.
Reasons for Marrying with Qur’an
These sorts of marriages are conducted to prevent their share of the land going to them and thus avoid redistribution of land.
Another reason is that poor parents are not able to find perfect match for their daughter so to prevent her for disgrace, they marry her with Qur’an.
Those who are not so rich to pay dowry to their daughters find it easy to marry her with Qur’an to keep away from humiliating gossips about them.
These marriages are totally illegitimate in Islam and have nothing to do with the religion. This is all about power, control and extreme of ignorance. Women are not valued enough to consider how their entire lives, and any dreams or hopes they might have had, their lives are ruined by a ‘tradition’ that is inhumane and beyond any rational explanation.
Islam never allows coming off from the world for the sake of religion. how can one claim that it is right or allowable? Although Islam requires complete devotion towards religion and recitation of Quran is obligated to all Muslims but this is abusive to marry a girl with Qur’an to make her recite it daily.
Islam doesn’t give men unbounded power to ill-treat women when he is given the status of leader of the house’. Islam does not want sheep for its disciples. men are required to protect women from abuses, not to legalize what has been illegal in Islamic societies.
We need to clean up our societies from these sorts of unlawful acts to seek God’s pleasure. As God Himself guides us in Qur’an as:
“You shall encourage those of you who are single to get married. They may marry the righteous among your male and female servants, if they are poor. GOD will enrich them from His grace. GOD is Bounteous, Knower.” [24:32]
The importance marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following Hadith of the Prophet (PBUH),
“Marriage is my sunnah. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me.”
“When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be annulled.” Once a virgin girl came to the Prophet (PBUH) and said that her father had married her to a man against her wishes. The Prophet (PBUH) gave her the right to repudiate the marriage. [Abu Dawud]
The responsibilities of parents in Islam regarding daughters can b best understood by this Hadith:
Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said: He, who brought up two girls properly till they grew up, he and I would come (together) (very closely) on the Day of Resurrection, and he interlaced his fingers (for explaining the point of nearness between him and that person)
Forced marriages are discouraged in Islam.
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “A previously-married woman should not be married without being consulted, and a virgin should not be married without asking her permission.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, how is her permission given?” He said, “By her silence.”
Parents are responsible for best possible growth of their children and selecting best match for their marriage.
Muslim parents are required to act upon the rulings of their religion neglecting the unlawful and disgusting customs and traditions that are brought up by humans. May God help us in abolishing iniquitous practices from our societies that are result of ignorance and betrayal from Islamic teachings.